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Tuesday, February 14, 2012

What Love Language Do You Speak?

Words of Affirmation
Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important—hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten.

Quality Time
In the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing says, “I love you,” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there—with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby—makes your significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful.

Receiving Gifts
Don’t mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday, anniversary, or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous—so would the absence of everyday gestures.

Acts of Service
Can vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “Acts of Service” person will speak volumes. The words he or she most want to hear: “Let me do that for you.” Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don’t matter.

Physical Touch
This language isn’t all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face—they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive.

Do you know which one you speak? How about your better half? A relationship is so much nicer when we speak each others language. Find out what language you speak and begin to speak to each other languages of love and see the difference! Take the assessment test now - Click HERE   There is even one for your kids to take.

My language is Physical Touch and my hubby's is Words of Affirmation. We do make a point to speak each others language and it is wonderful.

This morning for Valentines, hubby laid a card on the kitchen counter and I said 'oh, honey I didn't even think about valentine day.' (not very romantic am I?) and he said 'that's okay it's just a left over card from another year' We had a great laugh over that and it will probably be my favorite - my leftover valentine. (He does pick beautiful cards though and write such sweet things in them!) I don't really care too much for all these little holidays and put much stock in them. I must be weird or something. But he always surprises me with a beautiful card. See his language is Words of Affirmation and he naturally gives them. I on the other hand am a toucher. I pat you as I go by, tousle your hair, hug etc. It was funny when we first got married and I was always patting him, he didn't like it and he would say I'm not a dog. I would tell him I know I just love you and I can't help patting you when I'm near you. I was driving him crazy! But then he figured out that my language is touch and now he loves it and makes every effort to touch me as he passes me.

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Tell me what your love language is in the comments!


  1. Hubby and I read this book and did a group study on it years ago. I am definitely an "Acts of Service" person - don't send me flowers, wash the dishes. Hubs is a "Words" guy - which a Service oriented wife has a tough time with. But even after 29 years - we're learning.

  2. We never bother with Valentines, I'd also rather have the dishes done than be given flowers. I must admit I'm a touch person too and luckily so is my husband. We must be doing something right because we've been together 38 years, although I can hardly believe it!


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